Quote by Sthiss
I think the greater issue here is sexual identity among sexually active gay men. I know that if I want to get with hot guys I need to be hot myself.
This is the gay law.
One can only attract the people they are attracted to if they look as the attractive person does.
Unfortunately, 'look as one wants' holds more water than a gallon bucket.
don't fight it, our psychological fronts and representations won't let you understand the truth...
Hot is relative. I find a kind spirit and confident personality much more attractive. Next time you meet a hot guy, close your eyes and shut out your visual sense. Experience him with your other senses. Is he still hot, or did his looks overwhelm your opinion?
Looks fade over time. They're as changing as the seasons. What we consider to be hot also changes with fashion. One decade it's twinks, the next decade it's muscle boys and bears. And I've seen many guys change themselves and drop their boyfriends simply so that they could fit in with what is considered "hot" and be seen with someone other people consider as "hot".
I guess what I'm trying to say is that what is hot for you shouldn't be influenced by anyone's opinion but your own. And if you do allow other people's opinions to influence your attraction (especially the gay community's), then you're simply feeding the big bad monster that is Gay Law.